Apr 07 2008
The Sanctity of Marriage and my Son’s Wedding Plans
Unfortunately my son (23) comes from a broken home, as I did and many of us do.
Not long ago he announced plans to marry his long time sweetheart (a sweet angel). They also had their eyes on an expensive townhouse just before the mortgage collapse. Fortunately, both myself and his future father-in-law worked separately and convinced them not to cast themselves into that mire.
On top of that, this will be an expensive formal “storybook” wedding in difficult financial times where an old crusty codger like me might prefer they spend any and all affluence toward a starter home like they might do back in the times of “Leave it to Beaver” and “Father Knows Best”.
And more on top of that, the rehersal dinner is now planned for 60 or so, well exceeding immediate family, encroaching on what a rehersal dinner aught to be; an intimate and private ceremony for immediate family only.
When expressing my concerns there to my son’s biological grandmother (my mother), wisdom prevailed when she convinced me that although it may not weigh in heavily on the practical side, it will be a beautiful ceremony extolling the sanctity of marriage between a man and woman in a time when that union is under attact from some factions. She went on noting that especially for a couple to make those expenditures in difficult economic times further extends their individual and cohesive commitment to express their vows to each other publicly in an unforgettable manner, honoring that sacred union with their best.
I suppose I have good material for the “Father of the Groom” toast now come May 17th, 2008.
Ken

